Waistcoat 21


Acceptance is the understanding that things do not work out according to the picture that we plan and prioritise.

Things work out according to the purpose of Spirit.

We see the pattern, but we do not know the outcome. Nevertheless, we have to accept this fact and live our lives in the belief that we should seek to follow our path, one step at a time, praying and asking for guidance as we go.

One of the features of long term illness is finding the strength to accept that things have changed and I no longer am able to do things which I took for granted before.

Acceptance is realising that I can still do things within new boundaries and that this opens the way for my creative spirit to develop and grow despite limitations.

Itʼs not only long term illness that forces us to look again at what is important. For example,  it may be that we have an addictive personality or a long term situation that we canʼt change. Again we have to accept the way things are and not the way we would like them to be.

We are so fortunate in this situation because we can develop and grow and we know that the spirit is there to guide us, to show us the way that we should be going and bringing the people into our lives who understand our dilemma and can offer support as well.

You may have seen our website for the Arran Knitting Company  where we have patterns for sale which Iʼve developed over the years, taking traditional island designs and reworking them into more contemporary styles and techniques.

For some time Iʼve been thinking about selling the patterns on Etsy because we need to be able to have an automatic procedure for sending them out. Itʼs a classic that we get an order the night before I have to go into hospital and although I can process the sale manually, there may come a time when I canʼt.

So Etsy it is. Iʼm enjoying setting up the pages and seeing how it works and learning something new while I fight off despair about the things I canʼt do now.

You can check out my efforts on Arran Knitting Company  on Etsy and perhaps feel inspired to get those knitting needles out and try out a new pattern.

Knitting is easy to learn and gives our thoughts another direction much more positive than what we canʼt do.

The essence of acceptance.


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About lynngrayross

A mother and grandmother with over 40 years of experience in textile arts. Author of "Handweaving: the Basics" published by Bloomsbury UK. Available to purchase from

One response to “Acceptance

  1. Dear Pearls and Oysters: This is my first time replying to one of your posts that I get via my e-mail. So am curious how it manifests itself “on your end.” [Should it “go to” your blog, that would be fine, since your blog administration, for reasons I won’t go into, deters me from posting directly to Comments.] If it doesn’t make it to your blog format, please feel free to post all or portions of this as you see fit. [Or not, if you do not see fit.] Which brings me to your topic of “Acceptance.” As it happens, I am dealing with this more intensely now than I usually feel the need to. And of course I normally feel the need to daily. How am I dealing with it? [This being the more instructive question than “why am I having to deal with it more.”] I am “ramping up” on my awareness that I live only in a single moment, not in the past or in the future. This is becoming a psychic necessity for me, not just an intellectual exercise of the “spiritual” nature. And yet, ironically, the more I practice being “mindful” in the moment, the more I deeply feel that the future will be all right. [Which shows you I need to practice being in the moment even more!] So, what am I doing to accept the moment as all I have in time and space? Breathing in and out and telling myself that as I breathe in and out I am doing whatever it is I am doing. Depending upon the intensity of my neurosis [to borrow a comic-book term], I have to do this for several in-out breaths to several minutes to a sustained period of time [whichever comes first – or last – I’m not sure, and it doesn’t matter!] before I feel safely grounded in the moment. For example, now I am breathing in and saying interiorally that I am typing. In the next moment-breath I am breathing out and saying interiorally that I am still typing. If I stop to reread what I’ve written, I breathe in and say interiorally that I am rereading what I’ve typed. Then I breathe out and say interiorally that I am still rereading what I’ve typed. Hey, multi-tasking fans! If you want to foster acceptance of the moment, try mindful in-out breathing while you’re multi-tasking! It’s guaranteed to slow you down and enjoy your multi- or single tasking more! And cause you to realize that multi-tasking does not multi-moments in one moment make! I find that as I slow down I’m able to enjoy the moment more. I am accepting it more. This is sort of like the “new boundaries” you wrote about, isn’t it? So it is “life on life’s terms” again. And why do we resist that when, categorically the other option is “death’s terms?” Is it because we intrinsically fear and, thus, ignore death, anyway? Is it because we encourage belief in Self [i.e., ego] to hide death and to hide life as well, preferring to set our own “agenda?” An agenda which doesn’t necessarily recognize life, let alone death. But, wait! To be in the moment, according to Tich Nhat Hahn in his book on Fear, is to be above and outside of such “material world” dichotomies as birth-death, good-bad, health-sickness. Admittedly, I really have to work and practice this one, but it is well-worth it. For it is how we are meant to be. It is to leave fear behind and [through prayer, mindfulness, ongoing meditation, realizing It’s Presence — however you let your consciousness perceive and “treat” it] to live in the Ultimate. As in Thay’s [Tich Nhat Hahn’s nickname] poem [which one can interiorally say as one is breathing in and breathing out]: I have arrived, I am homeIn the here, in the nowI am solid, I am freeIn the ultimate I dwell It is there, in the Ultimate, at home, in the here and now, that I am “in the moment.” And there, I realize that Acceptance is not an option. It is a reality. For I am free of Fear. I am in Peace and Peace is in me. Peace to all. PhilDate: Sun, 11 May 2014 16:54:39 +0000 To:

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